Saturday, February 13, 2010

..slow down..

As I was getting my hair done the other day I read a couple magazines to help the time pass. I came across an article that got my attention and really made me think. It was basically explaining how easy it is to get caught up in the everyday things of life and how distracted we are. I don't think that needs any explaining. We can all testify to that I'm sure. The woman who wrote the article talked about how she would make time for everything and everyone but it didn't mean anything. She did it to fulfill her "duties". She would clean her house while taking on the phone and "catching up" with a dear friend. She wasn't focused on her job of cleaning her house and she couldn't even remember the conversation she had with her girlfriend. Her mind was going a million miles a minute. When her daughter came home from school she wanted to play a game with her mom. She told her daughter that she could have her for 10 minutes. Her mom called off the game before it was over because her 10 minutes were up. Basically this is what her days were filled with and at the end of the day she felt empty. She hadn't given her all to anything she had done all day. You should have seen the list of things that she got crossed off. It got me thinking, do I do my best at each task and do I give my best to each person I come in contact with? No. I'm a busy mom who always has a house to clean, groceries to buy, laundry to fold, a baby to tend to, dinner to make, a husband to love....I get so caught up in getting all my things done that I miss finding joy in each task that I cross off my "to do" list. Sure, they aren't all fun but it made me realize that the things I choose to spend my time on need to be filled with purpose. I am learning to not worry about the dishes from breakfast that sit in the sink and spend more time snuggling with Kate, reading to her, praying for her, laughing with her and calming her when she is upset. Those dishes will still be in the sink when she goes down for a nap. My natural instinct is to go go go and get it all done. I will still get my things done but at least now they will be done with my full attention. Whether it's cleaning the kitchen, writing an email, feeding Kate or catching up with my husband. So important and such a great reminder to slow down...

1 comment:

BJEBREWINGTON said...

Gosh Nikki reading this just summed up my life for what seems like since I've had my daugher! I totally feel like "everything" needs to get done "now" and sometimes that means the people I love have to wait! It is so overwhelming our "to do" list that I know for myself I totally forget to "slow down". Very well stated blog:) Thanks I needed that!!