:::I'm up on my soapbox:::
I am pretty sure every mom can attest to this. Whether you're a brand new mom or a seasoned one, you've experienced mommy wars.
From opinions, to mean words, to being judged for the way you mommy, even down to the car you drive. They are so real and it breaks my heart that this is the society we live in. Since when did one mom become better than the one next to her?
Us moms know how to run our mouths. Starting even before the babies are born! Are you going to take a Lamaze class? Oh, you're going to go all natural, huh? Cloth diapers? Baby wearing? Nursing? Epidural, what?! It's in our face and the opinions, judgements and running our mouths needs to stop.
How about once the babies get here? If you dare say the word formula you know judgement is coming. You mean you don't exclusively nurse your baby?! Or if you nurse without a cover, you know people are looking at you crazy. Pacifiers or no pacifiers. To vaccinate or not. Sleep training. The list goes on and on...and on...
I can take all of the above and get past what people think but one thing I can't get over as well is how mean other moms can be. I've felt it and still do in my own life as a mom and I don't get it. We're all on this journey together, trying to be the best mom that we can to our children yet we're tearing one another apart. What is it? Insecurity? Jealousy? Trying to sound like we have it all together? Because y'all know we don't!
I've been left out of plenty play dates for whatever reason and had mommy friends be judgmental and straight up mean to me. Do I take it personally? Yes. Should I? Probably not. I do a serious heart check when I've been hurt to take a good look at the way I was acting, the things I said or didn't say. I know that I am a girl who wears her heart on her sleeve. I probably care a little too much, especially when it comes to making sure I don't hurt someone and making sure that others feel included and loved. I know I have messed up plenty of times in the journey of mommy-hood and there will be plenty more mess ups to come.
I guess what I am trying to get at or the point I am trying to get across is, we're all on this journey together. We're all tired, stressed out, maxed out and some days just deflated. We all need to give one another a little grace, show love and support and be REAL. How hard is it to smile or say hi? I was just having a conversation with a girlfriend about facebook, we all have those facebook friends. Friends online but when you see them in real life they sort of look the other way and forget who you are. I have plenty of those and it makes me sad. The last thing I want is for someone to see me and think they can't smile or say hi to me because I won't respond back. I also want to be that kind of stranger who smiles at another mom or says hi just to be kind. A little kindness goes a long way and it never hurt anybody.
I've been on this box for far too long, time to step off it but before I do,
PLEASE BE A LITTLE KINDER THAN NECESSARY.
keep our mouths closed...at times.
End the mommy wars.